Couples Therapist Blog in Ontario

Gottman-Rapoport Intervention: A Step-by-Step Guide for Couples

Learn how to use the Gottman-Rapoport Intervention with your partner. This step-by-step guide explains the speaker and listener roles, common challenges, and practical tips for better communication...

When the Chemistry Fades: How to Reconnect in Your Marriage

When marriage starts feeling more like a roommate relationship, rebuilding the friendship underneath can help. Learn how Love Maps, Fondness and Admiration, and Turning Towards can help couples...

How to Calm My Mind—and Pass It On 

An escalated mind needs calm before reason. Two Ontario therapists explain how to regulate, relate, and reason with a partner or child...

Why Taking Responsibility Makes It Safe to Hope Again

When an old hurt keeps resurfacing, the conversation may be less about the past and more about fear of the future. Learn how taking responsibility can create safety, help apologies land, and give...

How to Recover After an Argument With Your Partner

Arguments can leave couples feeling hurt, disconnected and unsure how to start talking again. Learn a three-part process for calming yourself, recovering connection and returning to the conversation...

Gottman Aftermath of a Fight: How Couples Can Repair After Conflict

“We need help with our communication” is a common thing I hear at the beginning of couples therapy. It makes sense to start by working on skills that create a calmer way of talking so that couples can...

How to Make Decisions Together as a Couple: A 5-Step Process

When Couples Have Trouble Making Decisions Together I’ve noticed that couples can struggle when they need to make big decisions. It’s common for a couple to ask me to help them improve their...

Couple Decision-Making Under Stress: 5 Ideas That Help Create Clarity and Connection

When Couples Have a Big Decision to Make Sometimes, couples see me because they need help making a big decision. They’ve experienced a significant event, they’re facing a crisis together, or they’re...

The Four Horsemen in Relationships: The Emotions Beneath Poor Communication

When “Poor Communication” Isn’t Just About Communication “He always” “What I said was” “It’s my turn to talk now.” “Do you see how they never listen to me?”   Arguing during the first few...

 

Welcome to the Rick Grundy Therapy Blog

Welcome — I’m glad you’re here.

 

 

This blog is a space where I share practical insights, compassionate guidance, and research-informed perspectives on relationships, emotional well-being, and personal growth. Whether you’re navigating challenges in your relationship, healing from heartbreak, or simply curious about how therapy can support a more connected life, you’ll find thoughtful and accessible articles here.

 

 

As a therapist trained in Gottman (level 2), EFT, relational psychology and CBT my intention is to create content that’s both practical and kind. I write about topics that matter to people like you — those who care about improving communication, strengthening intimacy, and understanding how past experiences affect current relationships.

 

 

Here are some of the themes you’ll find in this blog:

  • Communication strategies that actually work

  • Healing after betrayal and loss

  • Managing ADHD’s impact on relationships

  • Attachment patterns and emotional regulation

  • Real examples, tools, and reflections to try at home

You don’t need to be in therapy to benefit from these posts — but if you are, my hope is that they act as extensions of the work you do in session, providing clarity, comfort, and direction between appointments.

 

 

Who This Blog Is For

This space is especially helpful if:

  • You’re in a committed relationship and want deeper connection

  • You’re questioning how to navigate recurring conflicts

  • You’ve experienced betrayal and need compassionate clarity

  • You or your partner are neurodivergent and want relational support

  • You’re curious about how therapy actually works

Every article is written with emotional respect and practical usefulness in mind. I aim to make complex ideas feel relatable — because your healing shouldn’t feel intimidating.

 

 

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If you find an article helpful, share it with someone who might benefit too. And if you have questions or topics you’d like to see, feel welcome to reach out via the Contact page — I’m here to help.