Learn how to use the Gottman-Rapoport Intervention with your partner. This step-by-step guide explains the speaker and listener roles, common challenges, and practical tips for better communication.
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When marriage starts feeling more like a roommate relationship, rebuilding the friendship underneath can help. Learn how Love Maps, Fondness and Admiration, and Turning Towards can help couples reconnect.
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Arguments can leave couples feeling hurt, disconnected and unsure how to start talking again. Learn a three-part process for calming yourself, recovering connection and returning to the conversation.
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“We need help with our communication” is a common thing I hear at the beginning of couples therapy. It makes sense to start by working on skills that create a calmer way of talking so that couples can quickly have a better experience of each other. Once conversations begin to calm, however, what’s often
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When Couples Have Trouble Making Decisions Together I’ve noticed that couples can struggle when they need to make big decisions. It’s common for a couple to ask me to help them improve their communication and calm down the arguing, only to discover that the underlying issue is that they can’t make a decision together.
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When “Poor Communication” Isn’t Just About Communication “He always…” “What I said was…” “It’s my turn to talk now.” “Do you see how they never listen to me?” Arguing during the first few sessions of couples therapy is helpful for me as the therapist. I’m being invited into a sacred space in the relationship
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Introduction One of the most common questions I hear during the early sessions of couples therapy sounds something like this: “I know I’m supposed to listen… but what am I actually supposed to do?” Usually, that question is followed by examples of what the person thinks listening looks like. They’ll say things like: “That’s
Introduction “I know I’m not supposed to problem-solve.” “I know I’m not supposed to explain myself.” “I know I’m not supposed to get defensive.” “…But what am I supposed to do instead?” That’s one of the most common questions I hear once couples begin having calmer conversations. During the early stages of
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Discover why couples often feel calmer after their first betrayal recovery session. Learn how a structured, Gottman-informed approach helps reduce uncertainty, calm the nervous system, and create hope after an affair.
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There is a moment in some relationships when the arguments change. At first, the disagreements are frustrating, but there is still hope. One partner complains because they want something different. They want more attention, more affection, more support, or more help. Beneath the criticism is a desire for connection. Over time, however, something
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